“Morning Rituals and Radical Queer Joy”
a chat with georgia robert (i kissed a girl s1) and her girlfriend esme
instagram: @georgiarbrt & @esmegraceroberts
1.- When do you feel the most joyful in your relationship, in a way that feels uniquely shared between both of you?
Esme — “We feel most joyful in our relationship when we have quality time together. Our schedules can get really busy so the thought of us having a day off on a Sunday, visiting the seaside or somewhere in London, and grabbing a coffee that feels like a warm hug, is genuinely euphoric for us! Nothing says us like the sea, a nice coffee and then a cheeky pint after a walk together.”
Georgia — “Also there’s nothing better than being in a social group for hours and then Irish exiting and it’s just us alone traveling home together. We will legit run down the road like little kids excited to get into our bed and cuddle.”
2.- How has your relationship created space for joy that maybe didn't exist before?
Esme — “Honestly I would say our ability to be silly with each other. We allow each other to be completely ourselves which ignites the weird in us both and it feels so good to be that comfortable with someone, our humour knows no bounds.”
Georgia — “I’d say for me, joy didn’t really exist that much outside of football. Being with Esme has completely changed my view of what joy is and where it should come from. Before Esme, my whole happiness was centered purely around how well my football was going. But since Esme, I’ve managed to find joy in the simplest things, which is usually just being with her and literally doing anything together.”
3.- Have there been moments where your joy felt radical or even defiant? What did that
feel like?
“A story that springs to mind with the term radical joy is New Year’s Eve 2025. We were in a predominately straight bar in Georgia’s home town and while that can be daunting at times, we spent the whole night dancing and showing our love so openly, while not caring who was watching. Near the end of the night, a lovely lady came up to us and said “I don’t want to sound weird but I have been watching you both all night and had to come and say hi. My daughter has just come out and I just pray that she finds a love that you both have.” In that moment our relationship felt like we were holding the torch for other people to see and express queer love themselves.”
4.- Do you have any shared rituals first thing in the morning?
“An absolute must for our mornings is morning cuddles. It’s key to not instantly grab our phones and begin our day with distraction, but instead starting our day with pure intimacy and closeness.”
5.- In what ways has your partner helped you understand yourself more deeply?
Esme — “Georgia has really helped me step into my power which is amazing! I used to be SUCH a people pleaser and have struggled with my own boundaries in the past. Since being with G, she has allowed me to know my worth and learn the ability to say NO unapologetically. People who have known me for years have said that I have really ‘stepped into my own recently’ and I genuinely believe I have G to thank for a lot of that.”
Georgia — “Esme has made me realize more than anything that I have worth outside of football. Most of my life my whole sense of self value was wrapped up in how well I was doing at football, which is obviously not healthy at all. Esme has been the only person I’ve ever met that makes me feel amazing about myself, she’s genuinely my biggest supporter. She’s also made me so much gayer (lol), and helped me understand my identity as a queer person. She’s so confident in her sexuality and it’s just infectious!”
6.- What's something small your partner does in the morning that you love?
Esme — “G will make me a coffee every single morning without fail. I will just give her a little look and she’ll be at that coffee machine with a massive smile on her face, it’s actually so adorable.”
Georgia — “Probably just waking up lol. I always wake up earlier than Esme, so sometimes I’m waiting for her to open her eyes and wake up as well. She always has her earplugs in and eye mask on and every time she’s waking up she will roll over and plop her head on my chest. It’s become a bit of a morning ritual!”
7.- In what ways does your relationship feel like "coming home" to yourself?
Esme — “Our relationship feels like home in the little things. Coming home after a long day at work and seeing G instantly relieves my stress, feeling pure comfort in her arms when I’m feeling anxious can completely calm me down. Forever knowing you have someone there, is truly home for me. I’ve always said G is my safety net in life. I feel like I can live more out of my comfort zone and try new things because I’ll always know G is there to pick me up and be my number one supporter.”
Georgia — “I think Esme has just helped me find myself, and made me more myself than I have ever been. I’m not trying to be anyone else, or having to try to explain who I am to her. She gets me completely and loves me the exact way I need. I feel so seen with her. It’s something I’ve never experienced before, and it’s just incredibly calming. I know I can be 100% me and she’s going to love me completely. There’s no feeling that compares to knowing you have someone always backing you.”
8.- What three songs do you associate your partner with?
Esme:
Sara Smile - Daryl Hall & John Oates
Birds of a Feather - Billie Eilish
Don’t You Want Me - The Human League
Georgia:
Sunshine - Gabrielle
Confidence - Ocean Alley
APT- ROSE, Bruno Mars
Bonus.- If you were an item of clothing/accessory from your wardrobe, what would you be and why?
Esme — “I absolutely love a graphic baby tee, bonus points if it says something cheeky on it. I have tees that say “bite me” and “dyke princess” on it. I love clothing that can spark conversation and represent my fun, bold and cheeky personality. I also love putting too many accessories on; sunnies, head wear and 100 rings? Yes please.
