“TEACH ME, FUCK ME: THE EDUCATIONAL POSSIBILITIES OF INTERGENERATIONAL LESBIAN SEX.”
By Eli Langfere (they/them)
@elilangfere
Eli is a writer and butch dyke based in the outskirts of Birmingham. They have a Bachelor’s degree in creative writing, which means they know how to say really mean things and give really good compliments. They have written on Palestinian resistance for Lacuna Human Rights Magazine, but are currently working as a barista. They believe in the power of storytelling to change minds, anti-capitalist liberation, and the responsibility to make friends with all cats they see by any means necessary.
The essay was also inspired by this visual work, a screenshot from a comic created by the artist @moowsie on Instagram.
Tell us a bit about the piece you're submitting! (Why did you write it, inspiration, why it's important etc.)*:
This piece was written in response to a compelling work of dyke art, which served as the emotional and intellectual catalyst for my writing. Specifically, the piece explores the layered admiration, desire, respect, and tenderness often felt toward older butch lesbians, a dynamic that is deeply rooted in both personal experience and broader cultural significance. Through this work, I aimed to engage with the unique intimacy and reverence that exists within queer intergenerational relationships, particularly between younger lesbians and older butches.
Although this piece takes the form of a creative essay, it also operates within an academic framework. Drawing on the foundational writings of Audre Lorde, whose work continues to be a cornerstone for me both as a lesbian and as a writer, I attempt to interrogate and better understand queerness, desire, and identity. Lorde’s reflections on erotic knowledge, power, and self-definition have profoundly shaped my thinking, and her influence threads throughout the piece, not as citation alone, but as guiding philosophy.
Ultimately, this work is an exploration of lesbian identity, queer memory, and the nuanced ways desire and admiration move through us. It is both a personal meditation and a critical reflection, grounded in love for the community that has made writing (and living) possible.